Hello friends and newcomers alike! I am a forty-something wife and mother; daughter and sister; friend and confidante. I am a lover of life and the journey it entails. I am a life-long learner passionate about making the most of the good life and continually gaining a better understanding of what the heck that means.
Today, as it has been throughout my life, I continue to experience extensive blessings and great sorrows. I have remained curious as I wind my way through these peaks and valleys and have been fortunate to pick up some important lessons and interesting observations.
One of the most important lessons I have learned is that during the lowest times, I have been stuck in the mindset of extremes. Believing that I would ALWAYS be stuck in the dark and NEVER heal, made the pain much worse. On the other hand, my happiest moments have come from living BETWEEN the extremes of always and never. Holding the Dark with the Light has allowed the Light to shine even BRIGHTER.
For example, I have been blessed to be a mother three times over. Each time my new crying, hungry, exceedingly needy bundle came into the world, they wore me down to the ground AND their 1st intentional smile alone lifted me to the moon. I have never been so exhausted AND I have never felt such an incredible capacity for love and joy. Parenting is hard AND amazing.
For me, happiness in life is about the AND; seeing the good and the bad. It’s about looking for the opportunity in every moment to choose the in between; to bridge the black with the white, the happy with the sad, the highs with the lows.
A couple years ago, I began capturing lessons like these for my kids as guideposts for them as their world expands ever wider and they explore their own paths. As with them, I offer these words to you not has a “you must,” but rather as a “have you considered?” Some of the observations I have picked up over the years may not apply to them and where they are now, or you. They may never apply. But perhaps in the future, when it is meaningful, they will have these ideas in their back pocket to pull out and use.